How do you woo someone? Offer them lift to office everyday? That would be so unhealthy. Won't you rather instead walk with her to office everyday. Do part of her office work for her? And then cry about it all your life if you do end up with her! So being "caring" doesn't cut it. Friends are caring, family is caring. Caring is just a temporary band aid. A single instance of difficulty soothed by a superficial act. Of course being funny helps. The girl finding you funny usually mean that you share some past intellectual interests. But soon you will run out of stories to tell her and she will get fucking bored of you. Unless, you have an endless supply of stories. So what is this this business of "finding your soul mate"? Must be something to do with completing each others sentences and deriving pleasure from doing the same things in similar ways - "Oh! once a month on a weekend we go on this log drive, bust into some elderly couple's home